"The number one reason why people give up so fast is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, instead of how far they have gotten" – Vaibhav Shah
It’s an emotional day for me, it’s a milestone birthday but more importantly it’s a milestone that highlights how my life has changed! As individuals we may find ourselves going through difficulties and we may lose sight of the distance we have travelled as we’re focusing on putting one foot in front of the other.
“The only time you should ever look back, is to see how far you’ve come” - unknown
This time of the year reminds me of when my narcissistic husband had felt threatened by a situation and decided to “punish” me, as he insisted that somehow I was responsible. I was locked in our home for a week , the car keys were removed, I was not allowed to sit in the lounge with the family and I was blocked from internet access. On my birthday he gave the children some money and told me to take them shopping so that they could buy me a birthday gift and I was given a 2 hour grace period. Yes, a very scary and lonely experience to say the least especially as we were living in a foreign country!
Today I sit in my new home with all my children free from physical and emotional abuse with a passion and driving force to help other women that may be in a similar situation to the one I had found myself in.
Some may say that I managed to escape my situation by luck, but I think that its more than just luck.
I believe that the secret to my success was absorbing every ounce of knowledge on narcissistic abuse, accepting that I could not change my husband and that I was not responsible for his behaviour. This gave me the power to focus on my goal of reclaiming my life and that of my children.
I started preparing for the day that I may in fact leave, in addition I would spend time visualising my perfect life, with a loving family and happy children. The visualisation was intense enough that I could actually feel the emotions that it created in my heart. The Universe answered me by supplying me with the opportunities that allowed me to realise my desires. This is when I needed courage to take action! For me, the day that required action and courage came, I booked flights, packed bags, took the airport taxis and boarded the flight to my new life.
A year with no contact I am telling my story and helping other women…. Amazing! I’m filled with such gratitude for life and a burning desire to fulfil my purpose.
“The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it changes the world you see.” - Dr Robert Holden
If you find yourself in a similar situation suffering from narcissistic abuse or any other abuse within a relationship, don’t fear the unchartered territory, find the courage to grab your second chance at life because you are worth it.
If you are experiencing abuse, remember that it does’t matter where you are on that journey to reclaiming your life be proud of yourself for your courage. The healing process is like a wave, on the bad days its ok to just breathe. Over time you will be amazed at how far you have progressed.
Remember, knowledge gives you acceptance, and knowledge and acceptance gives you power!
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It is not intended to be used as a substitute for diagnosis or treatment of any illness.